Continuing the series where Lou interviews John on his 1 to 1 sessions, this video is about sessions with the drinker rather than the family member.  Sometimes family members ask me to talk to their drinker, something that I am happy to do provided their drinker is willing. At times the drinker will be aware …

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Very often partners of alcoholics will feel that they are ‘just making a fuss’ if they criticise their drinker’s behaviour. There are a couple of reasons for this feeling, an obvious one being the drinker will tell them that.

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This is the second video in this short series about 1 to 1 with John.  In the series Lou interviews John about his sessions and asks him about the most common issues that arise. In this video John discusses the most common issue of all, that people just need to talk, to share what is …

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We have started a new series of videos.  This new series of videos sees Lou interviewing John about some of the issues that he meets in 1 to 1 sessions. This first video is the Introduction to the series. Read More >

Reached breaking point again with your alcoholic and ready to give the ultimatum, DON’T- here’s why, Stop drinking or else …  This is a phrase that has been, and continues to be, repeated in millions of households throughout the world. 

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This video is slightly different from our usual, a bit more personal rather than informational.  In it we talk about two topics, our website Beauty For Ashes and the Chain of Care.

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Anyone who lives with an alcoholic can feel swallowed up. Detach and rediscover the real you!   When you live with an alcoholic, almost inevitably, you become caught up in their drinking behavior. You will find yourself trying to second guess how much they are going to drink, when they will be home, what condition they …

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Evaluate your Progress To know whether your strategies are working and if your circumstances are improving, you will need to carry out an evaluation. This will mean going back to the SHARE assessment and comparing where you are now with how you were when you made it. Possible outcomes are that things have improved, in …

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Promote Change In this part of the cycle you will start to promote change. The direct goal of the change is NOT to get him/her to stop drinking, or even to cut down their drinking.  However, it is entirely possible that these may be the indirect effects of your actions.

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Today’s topic s learned helplessness. This is a quote from Medical News Today.  Learned helplessness is a state that occurs after a person has experienced a stressful situation repeatedly.  They come to believe that they are unable to control or change the Situation so they do not try, even when opportunities for change become available. …

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