We are aware that this is a hot topic for many. And it is a decision that no one can make for you. However, if you or your children are exposed to violence or sexual abuse, then we strongly advocate that, for safety, you should leave or get your drinker to leave.
When we wrote the Bottled Up book, almost the only advice that was given by friends, relatives and treatment agencies was to leave. In fact we actually wrote the book in response to that lack of options. We wanted to provide an alternative to the many, many people who still loved their drinker and did not want to, or were not ready to, make that break.