Living with an alcoholic

Alcoholics Can Change

Today I celebrate 40 years of continuous sobriety! Does that impress you? It certainly impresses me! What shows is, not that John is a wonderful person (although some people think he is, others not so much), no it shows that alcoholics can, and do, change, there is always hope in addiction. Just about anyone who …

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Talking about the Forum

In this video we discuss our vision for the Forum and invite you to participate in it and connect with each other. Thank you to all of you who do post in the Forum and especially to those of you who post to support other Bottled Up members. The Forum can be a powerful place …

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Getting the Best out of Bottled Up

Tell us what has helped you, what works, what doesn’t work. And, as the video says, this program will do nothing if you do not login to the website and follow the steps of that are laid out.

Detachment from a drinker

Detaching from a drinker is often misunderstood. Some people think that it means breaking off contact or becoming very cold towards the drinker. In this video Lou and John try to explain what we mean by Detachment and how it can help you to cope with the situation.

Accelerated Series

Since we opened Bottled Up over 15 years ago, our website has been visited almost 1 million times looking for information and support, thousands have joined the website and 10s of thousands have joined our mailing list. So, we know that there is a huge need for help. In that time, we have continually tried …

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More Mistakes People Make

In this post we are continuing the theme of mistakes that families and friends can make that are unproductive to change in the drinking situation.

Mistakes People Makes When They Live With a Drinker

There are many things that people who live with a drinker tend to do that do not help their situation. Most of these behaviours are well meaning and are just the normal way that families act and react with the people that they care about.

Gaslighting and Problem Drinking

A term that seems to be very common at the moment is Gaslighting - which basically means that one person is trying to make the other believe that things are different from what they seem. In this video Lou and John discuss the relevance of the term in relation to problem drinking. Read More >

Is talking to someone about the drinking being disloyal to my drinker

This is an issue that we found in the Forum and felt that we really needed to address it as it could be a hindrance to getting help and support. While we can easily understand, and even sympathise, with this point of view, we disagree with it. Of course we want to be loyal to …

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