One of the issues that can hinder people forgiving someone that they feel has wronged them is the fear that they are just saying that "it was ok to hurt me" and that the wrong may be repeated. In this video we discuss some of the delicate issues that surround forgiveness in a relationship where …

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Secrecy is very often a feature of families when there is a problem drinker in the family.  The family often closes ranks because of the stigma and shame associated with alcoholism in the mistaken impression that they are protecting, or being loyal to, their drinker.

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Can drinkers recover without seeking professional help or going into rehab? Is professional and or medical help always needed.

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Is alcoholism a disease? This is a real hot potato for the addiction field and I'm sure you have your own view on the topic.  You may have even seen that every now and again, some study claims to have produce 'conclusive proof' that alcoholism is a 'disease' or is genetically transmitted. However, thus far, …

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A common question that we are asked is "Is s/he an alcoholic?" The question is often accompanied by "or am I just making a fuss about nothing?" Our answer often surprises people as we tend to look at alcohol problems a bit differently. In this video we expand the traditional view of alcohol problems from …

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When we started Bottled Up our dream was to create a community where we would all help and support each other, that no one who was experiencing an issue with alcohol (through their own or a loved one's drinking)  would feel alone. In this video we encourage you to share in the Forum and open …

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If you have been browsing around the subjects of alcoholism, dependent drinking, problem drinking, for any length of time, you will probably have found a lot of conflicting information.  Unfortunately there is a lot of confusion, and /or fiercely held opinions in this topic.  This does not help you in your search for a bit …

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This is a huge and a difficult topic.  However it is one that we feel is so important that we have actually recorded two videos about the topic. The first video is from a professional point of view, what therapists would say to you and what the research shows.  The second video is from a …

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Sometimes, well actually OFTEN, when you live with an alcoholic nothing you try seems to have any effect.  Regardless what you do everything continues as bad as ever. In this video we start to look at how you might change this perception and how you just may be able to detect signs of change. Read More >

These two videos were prompted by comments and questions from you as members.  When we can, we try to address the issues you raise.  Apart from anything else it means that we don't need to wrack our brains for topics and we can be , reasonably, sure that we are talking about something that affects …

Continue reading "Scapegoating and Blame"

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