Making a pragmatic decision will be easier and quicker than searching for hidden bottles and getting into heated accusation and demands. If people begin to hide and lie about what they are doing, then we have to build in other ways of assessing their situations. If your partner looks, smells and behaves as if he’s …

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When frustration boils over and you lose your temper with the problem drinker, this is really understandable. It may even help you to feel better for a while. However, as a continuing practise it is likely to undermine rather than encourage the recovery process. Read More >

This week’s videos are a continuation of last week’s theme of empowerment, although the title (Surviving Life with a Drinker) is not quite as grand

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This week we have two contrasting videos one on Self Pity and the other on Empowerment

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three short videos, all on the theme of Letting Go.  Although it is natural to focus on the drinker, how much they are drinking, how often, when they will come home, what state will they be in, etc, unfortunately it doesn’t help.  It doesn’t help the situation, if you focus more on the drinker and the drinking, it does not change it one bit.  It also doesn’t help you either.

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It is a while since we recorded a video to tell you what we are actually doing in the website.  Most of the videos we have recorded recently have addressed some issue concerning problem drinking and/or recovery.  So this is a quick update on our current activity and thinking. So, in this video we talk …

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Here are another two videos in the Bottled Wisdom series.  In these two videos we look at two issues Anger and Staying positive.  In the first video we talk about anger. When your needs and those of the people you love are overlooked or trampled on, anger is a normal feeling. However, the way you …

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Here are another two videos in the Bottled Wisdom series, short videos which give a bite sized intro to aspects of the program.  In this post we address two issues Talking to a drunk and Lying and drinking.  We have addressed these issue elsewhere in more detail, however the goal of these videos in to …

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We have decided to create a new series of videos which we are calling Bottled Wisdom.  It is a series of short videos, around 5 minutes long, each one tackling a specific single issue.  It will be a distillation of the Bottled Up program in an easily accessible format.  The detail can be found in …

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Lou interviews John about Alcoholics Anonymous and powerlessness to tease out the differences and similarities between Bottled Up and Alcoholics Anonymous.

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