Detachment from a drinker

Detaching from a drinker is often misunderstood. Some people think that it means breaking off contact or becoming very cold towards the drinker. In this video Lou and John try to explain what we mean by Detachment and how it can help you to cope with the situation.

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More Mistakes People Make

In this post we are continuing the theme of mistakes that families and friends can make that are unproductive to change in the drinking situation.

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Mistakes People Makes When They Live With a Drinker

There are many things that people who live with a drinker tend to do that do not help their situation.  Most of these behaviours are well meaning and are just the normal way that families act and react with the people that they care about.

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Opportunity

Today marks the start of my 40th year sober, that is no alcohol or drugs for 39 years.  So, I felt that this was a fitting time to talk about a topic rarely mentioned when getting sober, that is opportunity. Forty years ago, I would sit in pubs in Glasgow and talk about the things …

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A Web of Addiction

So, who would have thought it? Spiderman has a problem with alcohol, even superheroes are not immune to the problem. You might say that he was caught in a web of addiction. If you are wondering what I’m talking about, Tom Holland, the actor who played Spiderman, discussed his alcohol problem on a podcast that …

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Gaslighting and Problem Drinking

A term that seems to be very common at the moment is Gaslighting - which basically means that one person is trying to make the other believe that things are different from what they seem. In this video Lou and John discuss the relevance of the term in relation to problem drinking. Read More >

Is talking to someone about the drinking being disloyal to my drinker

This is an issue that we found in the Forum and felt that we really needed to address it as it could be a hindrance to getting help and support. While we can easily understand, and even sympathise, with this point of view, we disagree with it. Of course we want to be loyal to … Read More >

Living with an alcoholic and coping with the summer celebrations

We are approaching a time of celebrations, eg the Queen’s Jubilee in the UK, 4th July in US. Some of you may be looking forward to it others may be dreading it. Lou and John offer a few tips on how to survive this time.

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Do drinkers need to deal with their past before they can stop drinking?

One of the old chestnuts of addiction recovery is this question - Do drinkers need to deal with their past before they can stop drinking?  In this video Lou and John discuss the issue and their different approaches to helping clients. Also Lou talks about deprivation and abuse and differentiates between them and how she … Read More >

Living with a drinker – Why can’t we agree?

You are living in the same house, you are seeing the same issues and consequences, and YET!!  When you talk about the drinking, the problems, the solutions it feels like you. not only don't live in the same house, in fact you live on different planets.  How can this possibly happen?? In this video about … Read More >

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