Blog – Bottled Up

Secrecy and problem drinking

People regularly believe that secrecy helps their drinker. Often, when the families of problem drinkers talk to us, they will say that they have not told anyone about the drinking issues. While their loyalty to their drinker is commendable it is, unfortunately, also mis-placed. In this video we touch on some of the reasons why …

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What Does Change Look Like When You Live with a Problem Drinker

Its been a little while since we posted anything new in the Blog. The main reason is that we have been busy setting up the Mentorship Community which we are glad to say is now established. In this video we discuss the process of change, what does it look like.

Xmas 2022

It is that time of the year again. A time that some people absolutely love and others dread. We hope that your Xmas is a happy and peaceful one. In this video we talk a little about our year and what we have done. And then we talk a little about how to survive Xmas …

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Mentoring Community

For some time now we have felt that we may provide more intensive, more targeted support. So, we have launched the Mentoring Community to provide that support. You might ask, are we now creating a two tier system withing Bottled Up. Well the answer is no! We recognise that people just as people have different …

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Dealing with Anxiety

Few, if any, of us will not have had to deal with anxiety at some time in our lives. And, if you live with a problem drinker, the odds are that you are dealing with high levels of anxiety. In this video Lou discusses the anxiety that was the result of living with a drinker …

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Gaslighting and Problem Drinking

A term that seems to be very common at the moment is Gaslighting - which basically means that one person is trying to make the other believe that things are different from what they seem. In this video Lou and John discuss the relevance of the term in relation to problem drinking. Read More >

Is talking to someone about the drinking being disloyal to my drinker

This is an issue that we found in the Forum and felt that we really needed to address it as it could be a hindrance to getting help and support. While we can easily understand, and even sympathise, with this point of view, we disagree with it. Of course we want to be loyal to …

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Does my drinker need counselling before getting sober

One of the old chestnuts of addiction recovery is this question – Do drinkers need to deal with their past before they can stop drinking? It is a question that we are asked on a regular basis. In this video Lou and John discuss the issue and why they sometimes adopt different approaches to helping …

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Living with an alcoholic and coping with the summer celebrations

We are approaching a time of celebrations, eg the Queen’s Jubilee in the UK, 4th July in US. Some of you may be looking forward to it others may be dreading it. Lou and John offer a few tips on how to survive this time.

Do drinkers need to deal with their past before they can stop drinking?

One of the old chestnuts of addiction recovery is this question - Do drinkers need to deal with their past before they can stop drinking? In this video Lou and John discuss the issue and their different approaches to helping clients. Also Lou talks about deprivation and abuse and differentiates between them and how she …

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