Detaching from a drinker is often misunderstood. Some people think that it means breaking off contact or becoming very cold towards the drinker. In this video Lou and John try to explain what we mean by Detachment and how it can help you to cope with the situation.

We launched the Intervention Course today and just want to give you a quick preview of what it involves.  So here is a quick video about it.  Feel free to contact us if you have any questions about the course and what it entails.

Here are a few tips for in case things get tough at Christmas.  At the end of the video we also discuss a couple of things that you could try in the New Year, including a step by step guide to carrying out an Intervention. Link to register interest in the Intervention Live with an …

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Since we opened Bottled Up over 15 years ago, our website has been visited almost 1 million times looking for information and support, thousands have joined the website and 10s of thousands have joined our mailing list.  So, we know that there is a huge need for help.  In that time, we have continually tried …

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In this post we are continuing the theme of mistakes that families and friends can make that are unproductive to change in the drinking situation.

There are many things that people who live with a drinker tend to do that do not help their situation.  Most of these behaviours are well meaning and are just the normal way that families act and react with the people that they care about.

In this video we discuss the function that secrets and lies play in supporting drinking and the drinking behaviour.

This is the second part of the threats and promises video.  If you have not watched it previously you can find part 1 here, Threats and promises part 1

In this video we discuss communications between the drinker and the family member.  This is the first of two videos on the topic.

We are aware that this is a hot topic for many.  And it is a decision that no one can make for you.  However, if you or your children are exposed to violence or sexual abuse, then we strongly advocate that, for safety,  you should leave or get your drinker to leave. When we wrote …

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