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These two videos were prompted by comments and questions from you as members.  When we can, we try to address the issues you raise.  Apart from anything else it means that we don't need to wrack our brains for topics and we can be , reasonably, sure that we are talking about something that affects …

Continue reading "Scapegoating and Blame"

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In these two short videos we look at secrecy.  Secrecy is a natural behaviour because of the shame and stigma attached to problem drinking, no one wants the world, or even close friends and relatives to know about the problems drinking is causing in their family.  Also you may feel that to tell others would …

Continue reading "Living with a drinker – Secrecy"

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Making a pragmatic decision will be easier and quicker than searching for hidden bottles and getting into heated accusation and demands. If people begin to hide and lie about what they are doing, then we have to build in other ways of assessing their situations. If your partner looks, smells and behaves as if he’s …

Continue reading "I feel I’m going mad – My drinker denies drinking"

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When frustration boils over and you lose your temper with the problem drinker, this is really understandable. It may even help you to feel better for a while. However, as a continuing practise it is likely to undermine rather than encourage the recovery process. Read More >

This week’s videos are a continuation of last week’s theme of empowerment, although the title (Surviving Life with a Drinker) is not quite as grand

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This week we have two contrasting videos one on Self Pity and the other on Empowerment

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three short videos, all on the theme of Letting Go.  Although it is natural to focus on the drinker, how much they are drinking, how often, when they will come home, what state will they be in, etc, unfortunately it doesn’t help.  It doesn’t help the situation, if you focus more on the drinker and the drinking, it does not change it one bit.  It also doesn’t help you either.

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It is a while since we recorded a video to tell you what we are actually doing in the website.  Most of the videos we have recorded recently have addressed some issue concerning problem drinking and/or recovery.  So this is a quick update on our current activity and thinking. So, in this video we talk …

Continue reading "Update and plans May 21"

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We have decided to create a new series of videos which we are calling Bottled Wisdom.  It is a series of short videos, around 5 minutes long, each one tackling a specific single issue.  It will be a distillation of the Bottled Up program in an easily accessible format.  The detail can be found in …

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Lou interviews John about Alcoholics Anonymous and powerlessness to tease out the differences and similarities between Bottled Up and Alcoholics Anonymous.

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