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Is your drinking tearing your family apart

Be honest: Is your drinking tearing your family apart? One of the things I often said during my drinking years was “Who am I hurting?  If I am hurting anyone, it is only myself”.  Looking back now I can easily see that I did not want to see or admit that I was hurting anyone.  … Read More >

The Guilt Carried by Children of Alcoholics

One of the great tragedies of alcoholism is that so many children of alcoholics carry a great burden of guilt well into their adulthood.  Especially when they are young, they can't understand why their usually nice mummy or daddy sometimes behave so differently. Sadly, the normal way of protecting the children is to tell them … Read More >

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic – Part 2

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic - Part 2 This is the continuation of the 25 signs your partner is an alcoholic.  If you have come to this post first, we suggest starting with the first part of the blog post before reading this one. Behaves inappropriately at social gatherings Many, maybe even most, … Read More >

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic – Part 1

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic You probably found this page because you were trying to find a reliable answer to whether or not your partner is an alcoholic.  You have tried to discuss it, or more likely you have voiced your fears, only to be told in no uncertain terms that he/she does … Read More >

What makes an alcoholic?

As you can imagine, I talk to people regularly about alcoholism and alcohol issues.  In many of those conversations I get asked "What makes an alcoholic?" or "What is the definition of an alcoholic?"  I get the impression that alcohol problems and addiction are a mystery to a lot of people. First, they seem to … Read More >

An Alcoholic Says Sorry

An alcoholic says sorry About a year ago I wrote an article apologising for the hurt and pain that I caused by my drinking behaviour. For some time time now I have been meaning to record the video version of that apology. This is that video. An alcoholic says sorry Hi, John here.  I recently … Read More >

The Best Way to Help an Alcoholic

If you are reading this then you have probably found Bottled Up when you were searching for information on how to help the alcoholic in your life.  Most people who come here are looking for two things that they believe can change the alcoholic in their lives.  You are probably looking for the same things. … Read More >

Daughter and mother open up about the pain caused by their alcoholic

An alcoholic affects at least 3 other people. Here 2 of them talk about the aftermath of alcoholism. Cassia (daughter) writes Ironically, it all started with Big Bang Theory - The Guitarist Amplification (Season 3, Episode 7). Relating to a character in a comedy isn't something I expect to happen. Even more so something that … Read More >

John McMahon interviewed by Harris House

Last year I was interviewed by a treatment provider (Harris House) about our work in Bottled Up.  These are my  responses to their questions. Dr. John McMahon, co-founder of Bottled Up, is an expert on addiction whose passion is to help and support the families of addicts. Here, John shares about his personal experience with addiction … Read More >

Is Alanon for me?

Alanon is an organisation that some people find useful and others don’t.  It is the main family group for people who live with an alcoholic.   If you are someone who hates being in groups, hates talking about yourself  and your life, and hates being given advice then Alanon is almost certainly not a place that you will … Read More >

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