Bottled Up

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Why Did We Combine the Websites?

We are Lou and John and we live in the UK, we are both therapists.  I have a thriving counseling practice John is a doctor of psychology.  We just want to explain to you why we have brought - what were two diverse websites and put them under the same umbrella. - John I think … Read More >

My Alcoholic Drinking Style

So what did my drinking look like?  I suppose, for much of my drinking, it resembled the sort of party drinking.  It was never a kind of, you know, genteel social drinking.   And I don't think I was ever that kind of drinker. Right from I picked up a drink, right at the beginning, I … Read More >

Getting Sober

Hi at the end of a previous video  I said that I'd ended up in a psychiatric hospital.  I had been given 6 months to live if I continued to take alcohol or drugs.  But that really wasn't the reason why I wanted to get sober. I wanted to stop drinking because I just hated … Read More >

How A Woman’s Tears Brought Hope To Families Of Alcoholics

I came across this article that I wrote some time ago and thought that it might interest you.  This article describes the incident that led to the start of Bottled Up. I have always hated it when a woman cries. I feel helpless, guilty, impotent and I just want to be somewhere else — where … Read More >

Is your drinking tearing your family apart

Be honest: Is your drinking tearing your family apart? One of the things I often said during my drinking years was “Who am I hurting?  If I am hurting anyone, it is only myself”.  Looking back now I can easily see that I did not want to see or admit that I was hurting anyone.  … Read More >

The Guilt Carried by Children of Alcoholics

One of the great tragedies of alcoholism is that so many children of alcoholics carry a great burden of guilt well into their adulthood.  Especially when they are young, they can't understand why their usually nice mummy or daddy sometimes behave so differently. Sadly, the normal way of protecting the children is to tell them … Read More >

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic – Part 2

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic - Part 2 This is the continuation of the 25 signs your partner is an alcoholic.  If you have come to this post first, we suggest starting with the first part of the blog post before reading this one. Behaves inappropriately at social gatherings Many, maybe even most, … Read More >

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic – Part 1

25 Signs Your Partner is an Alcoholic You probably found this page because you were trying to find a reliable answer to whether or not your partner is an alcoholic.  You have tried to discuss it, or more likely you have voiced your fears, only to be told in no uncertain terms that he/she does … Read More >

What makes an alcoholic?

As you can imagine, I talk to people regularly about alcoholism and alcohol issues.  In many of those conversations I get asked "What makes an alcoholic?" or "What is the definition of an alcoholic?"  I get the impression that alcohol problems and addiction are a mystery to a lot of people. First, they seem to … Read More >

An Alcoholic Says Sorry

An alcoholic says sorry About a year ago I wrote an article apologising for the hurt and pain that I caused by my drinking behaviour. For some time time now I have been meaning to record the video version of that apology. This is that video. An alcoholic says sorry Hi, John here.  I recently … Read More >

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