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How to Talk to a Drinker

One of the things I find myself doing in 1 to 1 sessions is providing coaching family members on how to talk to their drinker.  Many people who come to me feel that they have tried everything and nothing has been successful.  So they come looking for that perfect thing to say that will make … Read More >

I Need to Cut Down my Drinking

Continuing with our short series looking at the issues that John meets in his 1 to 1 sessions.  In this video Lou asks John how he responds to people who come along and say "I need to cut down my drinking". We also discuss how he responds to requests to help with Controlled drinking, what … Read More >

My Partner Thinks that I’m and Alcoholic

Continuing the series where Lou interviews John on his 1 to 1 sessions, this video is about sessions with the drinker rather than the family member.  Sometimes family members ask me to talk to their drinker, something that I am happy to do provided their drinker is willing. At times the drinker will be aware … Read More >

Am I just making a fuss

Very often partners of alcoholics will feel that they are ‘just making a fuss’ if they criticise their drinker’s behaviour. There are a couple of reasons for this feeling, an obvious one being the drinker will tell them that.

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I’m Listening

This is the second video in this short series about 1 to 1 with John.  In the series Lou interviews John about his sessions and asks him about the most common issues that arise. In this video John discusses the most common issue of all, that people just need to talk, to share what is … Read More >

1 to 1 with John Introduction

We have started a new series of videos.  This new series of videos sees Lou interviewing John about some of the issues that he meets in 1 to 1 sessions. This first video is the Introduction to the series. Read More >

Why Ultimatums Don’t Work

Reached breaking point again with your alcoholic and ready to give the ultimatum, DON’T- here’s why, Stop drinking or else …  This is a phrase that has been, and continues to be, repeated in millions of households throughout the world. 

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New Year, New Opportunities

This video is slightly different from our usual, a bit more personal rather than informational.  In it we talk about two topics, our website Beauty For Ashes and the Chain of Care.

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Detach and rediscover the real you!

Anyone who lives with an alcoholic can feel swallowed up. Detach and rediscover the real you!   When you live with an alcoholic, almost inevitably, you become caught up in their drinking behavior. You will find yourself trying to second guess how much they are going to drink, when they will be home, what condition they … Read More >

Evaluate your Progress

Evaluate your Progress To know whether your strategies are working and if your circumstances are improving, you will need to carry out an evaluation. This will mean going back to the SHARE assessment and comparing where you are now with how you were when you made it. Possible outcomes are that things have improved, in … Read More >

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