If you are reading this then you have probably found Bottled Up when you were searching for information on how to help the alcoholic in your life. Most people who come here are looking for two things that they believe can change the alcoholic in their lives. You are probably looking for the same things.
The first thing that most people want is information on whether their partners are actually alcoholics or not. Deep down, they believe that they are but they just want confirmation to be absolutely sure. So, if they already know the answer then why are they still asking the question, are they hoping that the answer will change? If you want that information then have a look at these pages. Medical criteria ; 25 Signs that your partner has a drinking problem and Drinking problems.
Nice as that might be, they are not actually expecting a different answer this time. Really the reason they keep asking that question is linked to the second reason they come to the website, to find a tool, a strategy, a word, a phrase, anything, that will help to change their drinker’s behaviour. Because, if they can find the ‘ultimate truth’ that their drinker is really an alcoholic, then maybe this time they can convince him/her that there is a genuine problem that needs to be addressed. That, armed with this proof, they can break through the denial and influence the drinker to seek help.
Most of the people who come here are, understandably, looking for that precious bit of information, that lever that will change everything. You see for most people who come to this website, and other websites like it, they believe that the key to a happy future lies in the drinker changing, no other changes are required. So, the total focus is often on that goal, which means that they miss the best strategy that they have at their disposal, the strategy that has been shown to have the best chance of achieving the change that they want.
The Best Way to Help an Alcoholic
Does this description of visitors to our website sound familiar to you? Are you here to find information and tools to diagnose and change your drinker? Well the good news is – you can find them here. We have lots of information in articles, ebooks, how to guides, videos and audios; so no shortage of information. However, for that information to work for you, or for you to even look at it and consider it valuable, may require a change of mindset on your part, not just your drinker’s.
Our experience of working in this area for a decade now, which is strongly supported by current research, is that drinkers are more likely to change when their partner gets help and support for themselves. I know that was not what you came to Bottled Up to hear but before you click away to some other website that will tell you a different story, just give us a minute.
Whether you want the role or not, if you live with a problem drinker then you are the adult in the relationship. It is you who holds the relationship and/or the family together, you are the anchor. It has been found that when the anchor gets help then there a number of positive consequences. Firstly, for the children you getting help will result in:-
- · Increased aspirations for the future
- · Increased self-esteem and confidence
- · Increased ability to deal with change
- · Improved educational attainment
Second for the drinker there is a strong effect that results in:-
- · More likely to get treatment
- · More likely to stay in treatment
- · Better chance of recovery
- · Better, more stable recovery
Finally – for You
- · Improved positive relationships inside and outside the home
- · Improved social life
- · Increased productivity at work
- · Improved health and well-being
If you look at this list and compare it against the wish list that you came to this website with, we guarantee that there is a very strong match between the two, if they are not actually identical.
COME AND GET HELP FOR YOURSELF AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW
Come and get the help that Bottled Up has to offer; this is almost certainly the best piece of advice we can offer. When you have help and support you are able to make better decisions and take actions that you would find difficult otherwise. So, come and join Bottled Up and let us help and support you. You are worth it and the results are what you are looking for – even if the method of achieving them are not.
Have a look at this discussion about How to Help an Alcoholic to see the process of how alcoholics change.
Or, if you feel that you have enough information now and want transformation rather than information then let us show you how to change your life