This week we have two contrasting videos one on Self Pity and the other on Empowerment. If we are honest, all of us are prone to self pity on occasion, some would, justifiably, argue that there was plenty of cause for the self pity and it wasn’t really self pity, just an accurate assessment of the situation. While there may, or may not, be some or even a lot of, truth in that view, unfortunately it is unhelpful to yourself or to change in your drinker,
The second video discusses Empowerment, a consistent theme of Bottled Up. At all times in this website we try to take a pragmatic approach, rather than a moralistic or emotional one as the former gives you scope to change your situation whereas the latter feeds your feelings of injustice and self pity.
Self-pity is a thief and a con man. You will see it in your problem drinker as he uses it as justification to drown his sorrows. You will find it in you, trying to undermine that part that is working towards positive change.
Don’t focus on what your problem drinker won’t do; focus on the things you CAN do. Focusing on your inability to change her habits will leave you feeling helpless and disempowered. Changing the way you do things will automatically begin to change your situation for good.
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