What’s your bottom line? Do you know? Have you ever really thought about what would be the thing that would make you end the relationship?
This was a difficult video to record. We realise everyone is different, they have different temperaments, different expectations and come from different cultures. So we have no intention of attempting to impose our limits on you, or anybody. However, we do suggest that safety, yours and your children’s should be paramount. and should be the bottom line.
Do you have a bottom line? How do you decide what it is and have you kept to it? Tell us in the comments below.
My husband and I parted almost three years ago when I hit my bottom line.He is currently in ICU with septic shock following a perforated bowel and his future is uncertain.I hope this might be his bottom line but only time will tell.
Thanks again for all your wise words…I still look out for him and thought I had emotionally detached but it’s never easy.I was one of those women who only saw the warning signs about the drinking after the honeymoon as we didn’t live together back in the day….and I kept hoping he would change…35 years later I’m still hoping and praying..so my advice to others is don’t wait too long because some people never change…we are all entitled to a peaceful happy life.
After nearly 24 years I have now reached the end. My partner has no wish to change so I am going to set him free to follow his own path i hope he will be happy.
I left my partner because his drinking was affecting our home life terribly. He promised to get help, saw a counsellor a few times. Meanwhile, I left our home with my daughter, rented a house. He still lives in our jointly owned house. I still see him, love him but I am suffering emotionally and financially because of having to move. I don’t have the energy any more to really take the next steps towards finishing the relationship, my pain is awful and He’s quite happily going about his life without this anguish. So sad.
Ive passed so many bottom lines, but the latest is so awful its got to be it, its so badly affecting my mental health and making me feel suicidal and lashing out at him. It’s really only the financial strain that’s stopping me moving out, at least temporarily, stil in the hope he’ll STOP and realise what he’s loosing and just how good it could be……if only!!!