Do you live with and love an alcoholic?

Do you wish that you could just sit down and tell someone all about it?  Someone who would listen, understand, be compassionate and not judge?  Someone who knows what it’s like to be you?

Well in Bottled Up we have a community of people who know exactly what it feels like to be you, who know your struggles, frustrations and fears. A community that share their issues and their victories as well as supporting and encouraging one another.

But this is not just another online forum

This is not just another forum where we swap war stories, valuable though that may be. 

Most common mistakes partner's of alcoholics make


  Bottled Up gives you so much more

  • information about alcoholism that you can rely on
  • real insights into the mind of an alcoholic, why does he drink, why does she lie, why won’t he stop, does she love alcohol more than me?
  • Practical guides on, how to decide whether he is an alcoholic, how to talk to your alcoholic, how to encourage her to change, how to look after yourself..
  • Information presented in many formats - videos, audios, step-by-step manuals, articles
  • Opportunities to discuss your issues with the community and Lou and John

  Bottled Up has a unique secret weapon

Lou and John created Bottled Up because, just like you, they have also suffered the effects of alcoholism.  Because they know that sense of being alone, not knowing where to turn.  They started Bottled Up to help and support you and others like you.

Lou was married to an alcoholic for 29 years till his death and talks openly about the mistakes she made, the times she got it right and the lessons she learned.  John was an alcoholic and addict (clean and sober since 1984) and is completely frank about his drinking and recovery.  Between them they provide a rare insight into both sides of the issue, the drinker and the partner.  But they bring more than personal experience, they also bring professional training and experience.

Lou is a therapist with her own counselling practice, so she brings a knowledge of strategies for change.  John is a psychologist who taught addiction counsellors at the Centre for Alcohol and Drug Studies at Paisley University and who has published widely and presented his research at many international conferences.

   So in Bottled Up you get the benefit of

  • A caring and supportive community – that you can share with
  • Personal experience of both sides of drinking – helping you understand why some things work and others just don’t
  • Professional help and advice – that you can trust
  • Tried and tested strategies – that will change your life


The most common mistakes partners' of alcoholics make

Do your efforts to change your alcoholic keep failing?  An alcoholic tells you why.

Living with an alcoholic is difficult – but you don’t need us to tell you that!  We would bet that you have tried many different ways to get your drinker to change and nothing has worked.  In fact some things may even have made the drinking worse.  You’re not alone, most people who live with an alcoholic find themselves confused and frustrated because all the things that should bring change, just don’t work!

In Bottled Up we explain why your best attempts to bring about change keep missing the mark and show you strategies that are much more effective.  In this free chapter from our book, “Bottled Up; How to Survive Living with a Problem Drinker”, we show you the most common mistakes families of drinkers make.  But we don’t just tell you what the mistakes are, in this chapter – The 4Ps- you can read the view of an alcoholic and how he reacted to these attempts to get him to change.  This is very important information that you won’t find anywhere else.

Just fill in your name and email address in the form on the right and we’ll send you a link to download the Free chapter.

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