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Hi Cora
Thank you so much for your kind message. It’s so good to hear from other people in similar situations.
In many ways I am happy – I am filling my days with my own hobbies and interests. What is missing from my retirement is just my husband as he’s not the same person when he’s drunk. Also the holidays and activities that my husband and I had planned and talked about before the drink took control. But hopefully one day they will happen.How has your week gone? Lou said last week that your husband was coming out of rehab this week. I do hope everything is going well. I’m thinking of you.
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Hi. I’m Angela and I live in the UK. My husband is the drinker and drinks at home 24/7. We are both retired and I have friends that I see often and activities that I do to keep myself busy. My husband is not aggressive but sleeps a lot and when awake he does nothing but play on his iPad (usually doing jigsaw puzzles all day). He has no interest in anything, even in activities he used to enjoy like cutting the grass. His life seems to revolve around his drinking. My main difficulties are setting boundaries and knowing how to react (or not) when I know he’s been drinking. Should I carry on chatting to him or just take myself off to another room? If I did the latter I would be spending very little time with him! When he’s been drinking a lot I do take myself off but in the mornings, when he has not drunk so much, we tend to chat or do things together – but am I enabling him by ignoring his drinking in the morning?
