10 SIMPLE CHANGES TO EMPOWER YOUR LIFE WITH A PROBLEM DRINKER
We have put together a series of 10 audios where we discuss the reality of living with a drinker and how you may improve your life. If you have been a member for a while, some of the audios and the messages may seem very familiar. However we suggest that you treat them as revision. If you are anything like us you need to hear things a few times before really learning the lesson.
Each audio contains information, advice and helpful tips to improve your life and situation, from two people who have experienced this issue from both sides; a combination we believe to be very powerful. We know also that listening to an audio will not change your life. What will change your life is action! For that reason each audio ends with an exercise to complete that week, exercises that build into a powerful blue print for reclaiming your life. All of the exercises are aimed at empowering you, that is giving you back a sense of control and hope in your life. We feel that, if you carry out these exercises, you will see a difference in your life. So we strongly urge you to do the exercises
ABOUT THIS SERIES OF AUDIOS
In this audio we do two things. One is to provide you with a bit of news about what we are doing and the second is to give you some information about why we did these audios. We hope that you find both parts of the audio interesting.
1 INTRODUCTION
Welcome to the first audio in this list of 10. In this audio we introduce ourselves and the goals of the audios. We hope that you find this first audio, and the subsequent ones, useful in changing your life.Just click on the audio below and it will start streaming.
2 SAFETY
In this audio we discuss the very important issue of Safety, your safety and the safety of your family.
3 THE 4 PS
In this audio we discuss the natural reactions that people have in this situation. We discuss why they probably do not have much effect, or at least not the effect that you intend and why you should stop behaving this way.
4 DETACHMENT
This audio discusses Detachment. Your life is probably dominated by wondering if he has been drinking, will drink, will get drunk, when he will be home etc. We discuss detaching from this emotional treadmill and starting to live for yourself more.
5 DEALING WITH EMOTIONS
Living with a drinker is an emotional rollercoaster. Anger, fear, anxiety and hurt are never far from the surface. In this audio we discuss these emotions and ways of dealing with them.
6 DISCLOSURE
Secrecy, isolation and alienation go with the territory of living with a drinker. Your social circle has probably shrunk and your social life may now be non-existent. In this audio we discuss ways of disclosing as well as discussing how to choose who you should disclose to.
7 GET A LIFE
This audio has proved to be the most popular audio by a considerable margin!! Now that you are detaching, disclosing and dealing with your emotions it is time to take a bit of time for you. When did you last do something just to make you feel good? If it is some time ago then you better listen to this audio now.
8 REKINDLE LOVE
LOVE is an acronym for a part of the Bottled Up program. It is one of the ways that we try to help people understand how to influence their partner and his drinking. It can also be a way of remembering why you are in this relationship and how it could be repaired.
9 CHOICES AND CHANGE
By now you should have learned that you have more power and influence over your life than you imagined. This audio discusses choice in more depth and shows how it is related to change.
10 COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
In this audio we are going to look back over the series of audios. We are going to discuss the current way of judging change and success just in terms of alcohol problems and how that is counter-productive and related to failure and depression. We will look at change a different way.
